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5 Ways to Politely Refuse a Drink

5 Ways to Politely Refuse a Drink

By Wally Rohde

You may be avoiding drinking too much, quitting entirely, or simply not be in the mood, but saying no to someone every time they offer you a drink can seem rude. And no one wants to appear impolite just for not accepting a drink. You may avoid places your friends mostly hang out, but it cannot go on your entire life, especially when you’re all living in the same city. However, whether or not you want to drink is your personal choice, and peer pressure should absolutely not affect you.

Let us see some ways to  politely refuse a drink politely.

Building your drink refusal skills

The following activity offers suggestions to support your decision to cut back or quit drinking. It can be used with counseling or therapy and is not meant as a substitute for professional help. If you choose to try it on your own and at any point feel you need more help, seek support (see Help Links).

Plan ahead to stay in control

Even if you are committed to changing your drinking, "social pressure" to drink from friends or others can make it hard to cut back or quit. This short activity offers a recognize-avoid-cope approach commonly used in cognitive-behavioral therapy, which helps people change unhelpful thinking patterns and reactions. It also provides links to worksheets to help you get started with your own plan to resist pressure to drink.

Recognize two types of pressure

The first step is to become aware of the two different types of social pressure to drink alcohol—direct and indirect.

  • Direct social pressure is when someone offers you a drink or an opportunity to drink.
  • Indirect social pressure is when you feel tempted to drink just by being around others who are drinking—even if no one offers you a drink.

Take a moment to think about situations where you feel direct or indirect pressure to drink or to drink too much. Then, for each situation, choose some resistance strategies from below, or come up with your own.

  1. Tell Them You Have to Drive: This is the most excellent excuse for not drinking more than you want. If you are stuck in a situation where your colleagues or friends are forcing you to consume alcohol while you just want to have some jolly good time with your pals, you can volunteer to drive them back home. Most people do not force over-drinking even at parties if you tell them that you are the designated driver for the night.
  2. Tell Them You Need a Clear Head: Alcohol consumption is known for making you hazy. If you get intoxicated, it may take several hours for the alcohol to leave your system. It can significantly affect your day-to-day functions as well. Whether you are a college student or an office worker, we all have those days when we need our minds focused. You can simply ask your mates that you need a clear head. It is a great way to tell others that your priority is not alcohol.
  3. Tell Them You Have Had Your Limit: If you have had problems in the past related to alcohol consumption and are currently in therapy for drinking-related issues, you will know how crucial it is to stay within your limits. You must keep track of how much you have already consumed and how much your body can take. It can be difficult for you to show people how much quitting alcohol means to you, but if you know you have had enough for the night, you can let your friends know, and they will oblige if they care.
  4. Tell Them You Are on Medications: This has to be the best way to walk out the door (or stay in and continue enjoying the party) without indulging in alcohol. Often people do not understand the reactions that medications can have with alcoholic beverages. If you tell them that you are on some medication you don’t remember the name of, they will not pry you again.
  5. Tell Them You Have an Early Flight: Everyone wants a good sleep before traveling. No one wants to face the nasty headache a hangover can bring along. Just tell your mates that you want to leave early or cannot drink because you have an early flight to catch.

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